There in the water is Barley, our grand-dog whom we’ve been dog sitting for during the past week while our son and daughter-in-law were away at a wedding.
We adore Barley, who is very sweet and smart, and unbelievably persistent – possibly partly due to his being half Border Collie and half German Shepherd, both working dogs bred for their determination around completing tasks.
What you see above is a moment in time while Barley was in our favorite lake by our boat, swimming around and fetching the ball. What the shot doesn’t reveal is that he did this ALL DAY NONSTOP, even when we tried to coax him back into the boat. He was doing his thing, having a blast, enjoying the whole experience. Persistence generally works fine for him.
If you think of yourself as being persistent how would you know if it’s working for or against you? Persistence can be double edged – it can veer into obsessiveness, alienation and empty efforts creating undue frustration.
So, here are some signs to observe to help you determine how your persistence may be a positive or a negative around certain activities and attitudes:
1. Are you having fun in the process or is your blood pressure just getting elevated?
2. Have you issued some sort of disclaimer related to the time you need, or negotiated it with a partner, or are you isolating around your efforts in a way others may find rude or hurtful?
3. Are you experiencing some desired outcome for your efforts or would Barley think that you’re barking up the wrong tree?
4. Are you maintaining balance and attending to other things needing your attention or is your persistence canceling out other important things on your agenda?
5. Are you respectful of other’s time and energy or is the “bug in your bonnet” leading to excessive reminding, prompting or nagging to get others on board?
These are only a few signs which might be good indicators of how persistence is working for you. The main point is to be conscious and intentional about it.
It’s okay when you’re a dog to just “dive in” all day, but most of us don’t have that luxury!
PS. If you need some outside help with this or any other issue feel free to contact me to set up an appointment. I’d be glad to help!