Finding Each Other Again: Rediscover Love in Mid-Life

Here’s another very astute piece by Cheryl Conklin of addressing an issue which comes up frequently in my work with individuals and couples – how to nourish love at the “halfway” point, how to keep love and pleasure alive long after the original glow has worn off.

And, contrary to popular myth that it’s all about the chemistry continuing to work magic or not, as per this article, it’s more about fueling pleasure, closeness, appreciation, discovery and excitement – fueling love which is no longer driven by initial bonding hormones.

And, the good news? With practice and intention, it can be done!

As you and your partner navigate the intricacies of mid-life, it’s important to recognize this phase as an opportunity for growth and revitalization in your relationship. This guide from Susan Lager’s Couplespeak™ Blog provides strategies aimed at uncovering sources of inspiration and positivity, which can significantly deepen the bond you share. Embrace this period as a chance to strengthen your connection and rediscover each other in new, meaningful ways.

Disconnect to Reconnect

In this era of constant digital connectivity, stepping back from technology can be transformative. Consider designating tech-free zones in your home or tech-free hours in your day. Use this time to engage in activities that foster closeness and communication with your partner. Whether it’s revisiting old hobbies or simply sharing thoughts over a cup of coffee, these moments can significantly strengthen your relationship.

Embrace the Joy of Giving Back

Volunteering together can open new avenues for connection and purpose. Engaging in community service not only brings a sense of accomplishment but also helps you and your partner see the world from a broader, more compassionate perspective. This shared experience can bring a fresh sense of inspiration and positivity into your lives. It encourages empathy and understanding, strengthening the bond you share. Through these acts of service, you and your partner can gain a deeper appreciation for each other and the world around you.

Balance Work and Relationship

Creating a harmonious work-life balance is vital. Discuss and respect each other’s work boundaries to ensure that your relationship remains a priority. Regularly setting aside time to focus solely on each other helps maintain a healthy, supportive partnership. This balance allows you to nurture your relationship while still pursuing professional goals. It’s about finding a rhythm that works for both of you, where neither feels neglected nor overwhelmed.

Start a Daily Gratitude Practice

Daily expressions of gratitude can significantly uplift your relationship. Take time each day to share something you appreciate about your partner. This simple practice can transform your perspective, encouraging a more positive outlook on life and strengthening your bond. It’s about acknowledging the small things, the everyday acts of kindness, and the unique qualities that your partner brings to your life. This habit fosters a culture of appreciation and respect in your relationship.

Face Challenges Together

If substance use is impacting your relationship, remember that treatment can be a vital resource. Seeking professional guidance signifies a significant step towards healing and reinforcing your partnership. This journey, though challenging, can bring you closer and encourage a deeper understanding and compassion between you. Finding treatment help available is a courageous decision, demonstrating your commitment to the relationship and overall well-being. This transformative process builds a robust foundation of trust and support, which is essential for a healthy partnership.

Commit to Get Healthy Together

Prioritizing your physical and mental well-being is crucial. Engage in activities that promote health, like exercising or trying new nutritious recipes together. Supporting each other in these goals not only improves individual well-being but also enhances the health of your relationship. These shared activities can become a fun bonding experience, creating more moments of joy and togetherness. It’s about caring for each other’s health as much as you care for your own.

Embrace New Adventures

Exploring new places together can reignite the spark in your relationship. Traveling allows you to create shared memories and experiences, bringing a sense of adventure and excitement to your partnership. These experiences can be a powerful source of inspiration and positivity. Traveling together means stepping out of your comfort zones, learning, and growing together. It’s an opportunity to see each other in a new light and rediscover the qualities that drew you to each other. Your mid-life journey as a couple can be an opportunity for growth and deeper connection. By embracing these strategies, you can navigate this phase with positivity and inspiration. Remember, every step you take together strengthens the bond you share and enriches your shared journey. Old Couple Holding Yoga Mats — Portsmouth, NH — Susan Lager

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