This title wasn’t just a random thought. There have been a few images which lodged in my brain, making me think about what is getting lost living in the fast lane, as most of us do. My husband Thom and I were floating around in our boat near a sandbar today on our favorite lake in New Hampshire. It was boiling hot out, so we’d read or talk a bit, then take a dip in the lake, pick blueberries, watch the ripples in the water, and repeat the whole sequence for most of the afternoon. At one point, a smiling, elderly gentleman floated by on a dinghy, arms and legs hanging out, aimlessly headed nowhere in particular, obviously having a grand old time, entirely “in the moment”. It was a “shelling peanuts” (on a porch), kind of day. Sadly, I think this kind of energy and attitude, slow and languorous, gets squelched in our busy lives, and something precious to our selves and our relationships gets lost. I encourage clients, (and myself) to be more intentional about preserving this kind of tempo as sacred to our sense of well-being, our connection to the world, and to our partners. And by the way, who got the crazy idea to bring peanuts to us already shelled?
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