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12/12/13 BlogTalk Radio Show 7 PM: “Hot Tips For A Cold Marriage”

Don’t miss this episode!I will co-host this show with Meredith Richardson, a highly sought New England conflict management specialist who works as a Mediator, Facilitator, Trainer, Conflict Coach, Collaborative Lawyer in Maine and New Hampshire, as well as a motivational speaker, Midlife Coach, and the creator of popular, transformative retreats. She’s a one woman show!

Coming from very different fields, we’ll deal with the issues of connection, communication and conflict in marriage. We’ll discuss how some simple shifts in perspective and behavior can can help to change a cold, distant marriage into a much warmer, fulfilling partnership.

Don’t miss this vital episode if you’re currently married, divorced, or ever hope to be married again – this time, happily.

Join us live on the air with questions or comments by calling toll-free: 877-497-9046

My Sisters

I’ve just spent two weekends, each with one of my wonderful, wacky sisters. Unfortunately, we couldn’t coordinate the visits to Maine so we’d all be together, yakking into the wee hours of the morning, tooling around the coast, sharing secrets, boating, walking, recreational eating, shopping, cooking, jewelry hunting, clothes swapping, laughing and more yakking.

Maybe it’s the aging process, but as we all get older there’s an increased sense of tenderness, compassion, and acceptance of each other, as well as a deeper appreciation of our bond. We no longer take each other for granted. We know full well what a blessing it is to have loving family. If you too are fortunate enough to have sisters (or brothers, for that matter), I hope you too cherish them.

“My sisters and I, friends are we, Best of friends we’ll always be”

Author: Unknown


Susan Lager

“How Love Is Not Enough – Six Critical Factors To Evaluate” BlogTalk Radio show tonight 8/15 8:30 PM

Don’t miss my Blogtalk Radio show tonight at 8:30 PM! I’ll be discussing the six critical factors to evaluate when looking at how healthy or viable a relationship may be, and how people often delude themselves, thinking love alone will get them through. Here’s news for you: love is not enough!!!!

Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 to be able to join me live on the air with questions or comments or stories. I welcome all of it!

If you can’t make the live show, simply catch the recording at:

The New Year’s Blues

I’m not going to start by saying “Happy New Year”, ok?  If you’re reading this blog entry, you’re probably bummed about facing your (tedious, overwhelming) everyday life now that the party’s over, and you’re not feeling very happy. Maybe you’re in good company with millions of people suffering from Seasonal Affective Depression (SAD), getting more glum as the daylight hours are diminished. If so, get the special light for that, and sit if front of it at least 15 minutes per day. It will help immensely. And cheer up – after December 21st the daylight hours expand bit by bit every single day until June 21st when it goes the other way and we’re all screwed again.

Maybe you don’t have S.A.D., but you drank too much, ate too much, spent too much, and overall had WAY too much fun during the holidays. If so, don’t worry – I’m not going to offer you chirpy advice about how to stay positive and get back on the horse. Go look EVERYWHERE else for that “helpful” stuff. Instead, I have two words for you to repeat to yourself frequently during the next week or two as you feel that dreaded New Year’s “back to the grind” feeling:

“SO WHAT?” That’s right, “SO WHAT?”

Unless you’re clinically depressed, (in which case the above doesn’t apply, and you should seek professional help), most people don’t die from feeling sorry for themselves occasionally. So enjoy your pity party, complain to all your friends and family, listen to their complaints, slog around, and milk it for all it’s worth, knowing that you’re “normal”, and in great company with loads of people. Chances are by mid January, you’ll get sick of the whole routine, and will be ready for the next thing.

Hang in there,
Susan Lager

PS. Stay tuned for my “next things”, which are my long overdue Ebooks and articles available for sale later this month on the “products” page of this website. You can get a “sneak preview” right now if you want.

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I am a licensed, board certified pyschotherapist and relationship coach in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. Through my psychotherapy or coaching services, I can provide you with skills and tools to transform your life.

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