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Changing The Routine

If you are a reader of mine, you may have noticed that I’ve been lax in the blogging department for most of the summer.

I’ve given myself permission to get out of my chair, off the internet, and to have a different kind of fun! I love talking to you all, I love writing and sharing things, but I get sick of the internet in the summer! I happen to live on the southern coast of Maine, which is filled with fantastic places to go, and interesting things to do, so I feel compelled to change up my routine, get outside more, be more social and PLAY!

Changing your routine from time to time can be an invigorating experience. The sense of novelty ramps up good chemicals in your brain, especially if you’re doing some new or different things with a friend or partner.

The change can expose you to new activities or people you may really enjoy.

You’re likely to learn stuff as you expand and switch up your repertoire.

Then, the ironic result may be that when you resume your usual routine, you approach it with fresh eyes and ears, and are likely to be more appreciative of your life as it was!

Summer Brain

Every summer I encounter a similar thing: friends, family, colleagues and clients running around, off their usual structured schedules, forgetting appointments, late for dates, and all out of whack. I call it Summer Brain because maybe the heat and humidity, (and now the torrential rain), seeps into everyone’s head and acts like a blender, mixing everything up. People who are usually so precise and committed to dates, times, goals and schedules now all seem to have A.D.D. !

As a therapist, I’ve learned not to take it too personally, knowing it’s seasonal, and in the Northeast it’s probably related to the frenetic pace around capitalizing on the measly duration of warm weather. I make use of the found time when clients forget their appointments by filing, returning calls, organizing my desk, and wondering why I haven’t caught the Summer Brain bug? Unfortunately, when I charge clients for these missed appointments they often get annoyed, probably wondering what’s wrong with my brain.

But hey, it’s summer! We could all instead be shoveling two feet of snow off our roofs, then shivering in our freezing cars, negotiating black ice, and praying for summer!

Life is a trip…..

Unplugged – The Joys And The Freedom!

If you’re a regular reader here, maybe you’ve noticed my absence for the last several weeks. It’s been the dog days of summer here in New England, raining nonstop, then boiling hot, then more rain. In spite of the weird weather, we in the Northeast treasure our summers ferociously, trying to capitalize on the three months of the year when snow and blizzards are unlikely. So, I too have been haunting the beaches, the lakes and the mountains, rain or shine. But, most notably, I’ve been almost completely unplugged from my devices (except for my professional voicemail), and LOVING IT!!!

For weeks now, no blogging, no radio shows, no YouTube videos, hardly a tweet, no clever Facebook entries, no LinkedIn updates, no book drafts, no cellphone calls, nothing!

Instead of daily “tech dialysis” I’ve gone tooling around without the world being able to contact me, and the only one who even seems to notice is my husband who thinks it’s inconsiderate. (We’re working on a compromise).

I’ve gone to lunches and dinners with people I enjoy having conversations with, instead of whining to tech support.

I’ve gotten off my laptop and rekindled connections with colleagues and old friends. (They’re still alive!)

I’ve actually been reading books and magazines just for fun! Freedom from emails and Google!

I’ve been preparing for my boating license test, learning all about “starboard stand-on” versus “port give-way,” halyards, double clove knots, and such vital things I’ll need to know on the waterways when I’m supposedly “manning the vessel.”

I’ve gone on hikes, bike rides, and car rides in the countryside instead of doing professional gigs.

I’ve nurtured my garden, watered the lawn, planted new beds, and fought Japanese beetles instead of battling scam sites and internet viruses.

I’ve visited other cities, just for fun trips to see the sites. (Cheated a bit with some book promo).

I’ve watched movies, plays and silly TV shows without any “productive justification.”

And miraculously, without all the internet busyness, I’ve gone to sleep most nights at a normal hour, not on my usual vampire schedule!

I’m telling you, getting unplugged can be a total joy! How novel – life without devices! Try it!

Big Summer Cheers,
Susan Lager

BlogTalk Radio Show Tonight 8:30 PM EDT! Don’t Miss It!

Tune in at 8:30 PM EDT for this half hour episode about the key attitudes for having a fun summer with or without a partner. I’ll also be sharing my big list of ideas for joyful, connective, or just creative things to do to capitalize on the season, with or without good weather.

Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 to just listen in, or to join me on the air with ideas of your own. Hope you can be with me for this light but hopefully informative show!

Cheers,
Susan Lager

Having A Good Summer With Or Without A Partner

I’ve been away from this blog for a few weeks because I generally don’t relish being indoors, sitting on my butt and writing when the weather is glorious outside. So, I’m sitting on my butt, outside, in my breezeway, talking to all of you.

I’m hosting another BlogTalk Radio episode on Wednesday, June 26th at 8:30 PM EST dealing with this issue: how you can strike a balance between your “to do” list, have fun, enjoy the weather, nurture your relationships, and nurture yourself. (It hurts my head just thinking about it!)

Here in New England people often experience Summertime Blues because the season is so short before the blizzards come, and the balance feels impossible. I try to dedicate the rainy month of June to cleaning out the garden beds, reseeding lawns, cleaning and putting in screens and air conditioners, bringing down summer clothing from the attic, cleaning and pulling out the kayaks, getting our boat ready for the water, pulling out all the beach toys, finishing up any pressing paperwork, and generally going CRAZY if the weather is lovely and not rainy! I can tell you one thing right away: you have to pick and choose, you won’t get to it all expertly, so chill out! It’s summer! Have some FUN, dammit!

If you’d like to join me on the air on the 26th, call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 and share any ideas you may have for not having a meltdown, but having balance instead, now that it’s summer.

Cheers,
Susan Lager

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I am a licensed, board certified pyschotherapist and relationship coach in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. Through my psychotherapy or coaching services, I can provide you with skills and tools to transform your life.

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