Take The Long View

My husband Thom is going in for a colonoscopy tomorrow afternoon. “Ugh!” is the most apt description for the procedure that we both agreed upon. For me, the event evokes memories of drinking liters (not cups!) of disgusting gel-like fluid all night before the procedure, no food allowed, getting sick to my stomach, and feeling certain I’d have an accident in the car en route to the hospital. Then there’s the idea of a team of people probing around your rear end, hopefully to find nothing meaningful, and afterward, inconveniencing an adult to drive you home, then being the butt (no pun intended), of a bunch of ass jokes.

This is the kind of situation where the only sane way to deal with it, in my opinion, is to take the long view – to focus off the immediate discomforts and indignities, and focus instead on the big picture of good self-care, early detection if there’s a cancerous mass, and the ultimate benefits of having to shell out the copays for one’s expensive health insurance. Period.

There are lots of other events and circumstances in life which fit in this category: divorce, paying taxes, yard work, confronting a loved one about a hurtful exchange, exercise, proper diet, paying bills, getting to bed on time, cleaning the house, etc…….

So, as with the discomforts and horrors of a colonoscopy, trust that you will greatly improve your perspective by being wise enough to take the long view!

About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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