Reserve Some Love…….

Using my beloved Mackey as a prop, I make a point about the effect of directing just a small piece of the affection you give to your favorite pet, to your (supposedly) beloved spouse or partner. (You can go to my YouTube site to see the whole video). The gist of it is this: I worked with a couple who were very hostile and nasty to each other most of the time. It was distressing to watch, and they weren’t performing! It continued until one day they got a little dog they both adored. Each noticed with surprise how much love they were able to so easily pull out of themselves for this dog, so together they decided maybe they could direct some of that same energy toward each other, maybe just 50%, nothing too fancy, just to see what would happen. Well, of course, once they became intentional in this way, the tone of the whole relationship softened, and they felt more loving and happy. Sometimes Action needs to precede Motivation, so, reserve some love and you’ll feel more loving…..

Signing off for now,
Susan Lager
The Closer Couples Coach
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About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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