Preparing For The Hurricane


Most everyone living in the northeastern U.S. is preparing for Hurricane Irene to arrive in all her fury. The supermarkets are jammed with people stocking up on water, batteries, flashlights, ice, food, and all sorts of other supplies needed in the event of power outages, and floods.

The odd thing is that today was a gorgeous, sunny day showing no signs of the likely destruction and general mayhem to come! Maybe it’s an occupational hazard, but it feels to me like a perfect metaphor for the uncertainty of life inside a committed relationship: At the moment all seems calm, but inevitably there are huge storms coming, and if you’re not prepared, you’re screwed. It you wait till the last minute your resources will be limited at best. If you don’t have a plan for how to brave the storm, you’ll be in reactive “chaos mode”, and won’t fare so well. If you don’t pay attention to the warning signs, you’ll be in dangerous denial, and could be swept away. If you try to go it alone without proper teamwork, you’ll be at risk. So think of nurturing and bolstering your relationship as similar to preparing for the hurricane.

You hope for the best while allowing for the worst, and chances are, there’s sunshine again on the other side.

Hope all goes well,

Susan Lager


About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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