I’m Back! (And Refueled)

I know, it’s been two weeks with me incognito, unfortunately not hanging out sipping Pina Colada’s on a beach in the Caribbean. The much less lovely truth is that I’ve been getting my personal taxes ready for my accountant, working hours each day assembling documentation, and tabulating figures. I’d rather be tarred and feathered than endure this each year, so when I come up for air, I’m religious about rewarding myself and “refueling” with someone special. This time it was with my beloved “baby” sister, Laurelei, as I call her.

We spent more than four days yakking, shopping, site seeing, eating, speed walking, watching “Doc Martin” for hours on end, and yakking. Did I already mention that? It was pure heaven, partly because we’re very well aligned in interests, but mostly because we adore and enjoy each other. Whenever she leaves to return to New York City, I feel a weird mixture of sadness and fullness – not only in relation to all the food we ate, but mostly related to the joy of our connection.

I’m telling you this because I think it’s vital for everyone to have someone to “refuel” with. It doesn’t have to be a family member if your family is “vile” (as Doc Marin says). It just needs to be someone you enjoy who fills you with good energy, so you can go back to the grind of whatever you need to do with a sense of connection, and the experience of living well and fully.

What relationships refuel you?


Susan Lager

PS.  The Wednesday, March 21st 8:30 PM Blogtalk Radio show has been rescheduled to Wednesday, April 4th at 8:30 PM.  I will announce the topic and guest soon, so stay tuned……

About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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