Every day in my private psychotherapy practice I work with people who feel miserable in their relationships with family, friends, co-workers or partners. Often, they don’t have any idea why the relationships are going so wrong, or what they are doing to contribute to the problem.
One thing I encourage people to do to avoid some unnecessary dilemmas on the front end is to get clearer about their expectations, wants and needs in their different relationships. Developing this self awareness is critical to doing better! Knowing what makes you tick and also, where you have vulnerabilities which are likely to play out, is a big part in creating more positive outcomes.
Here are three questions you can ask yourself to raise your self-awareness in relationships:
1. What circumstances are emotionally triggering to me?
2. Do I tend to blame others? If so, whom, and about what?
3. Do I apologize when I’ve been out of line?
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