Back To (Relationship) School Part 2

Good Morning Reader,

I’ve been thinking about this issue of readiness for the coming year since I brought it up. Hopefully by now you’ve begun to reflect firstly on a particular relationship which feels a bit limp, and needs some TLC.
When you think about the strengths, be straight with yourself about whether or not you’ve done anything to “feed” them. If not, take a meaningful step by doing one thing to make the other person feel valued or loved. It may be a small gift, or an email or call, or an invitation to do something together soon, or just a conversation about why you care, and what you enjoy about that person. (Unless you’re disgustingly mushy, your friend or partner will probably love hearing something from your heart). Don’t assume they already know it.  Even if they do, most people love “words of affirmation”.
Now think about the one or two problems you’ve already identified in this relationship, and your part in them. Be prepared to go into corrective action with one change in the coming weeks.  We’ll talk about that one later……

Cheers,

Susan Lager
P.S.  Keep an eye out for my new website www.HowToBeABetterCouple.com (which should have been up and running in July, but I’ve been playing too hard this summer).

About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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