A Rather Blustery Day

Yesterday was, as Winnie the Pooh would say, “a rather blustery day!” There I was on my morning speedwalk, getting blown about by wind and leaves, as the sky became intermittently cloudier, then sunny, then cloudy again, with the temperature quite brisk. It didn’t do much for my speed time, but I noticed my mood getting lighter and happier with every step. Why, you might wonder, would anyone in their right mind feel happier as the weather becomes more sultry and stormy?

(Back Story): Over the years doing psychotherapy, I’ve noticed clients coming in on windy, grey, “bleak” days complaining about the unpredictable, “bad” weather in New England. Many of them are particularly sensitive to the loss of light as the winter approaches (“seasonal affective disorder”), and actually get more depressed in the winter months. When they try to get me to commiserate, I can’t hide my glee about the colder, dark, temperamental weather, attributing my comfort with it to my Russian heritage. Clients then look at me blankly, chuckle, and change the subject.

My brother-in-law Joe says, “You New Englanders are always complaining about the weather! Move to Florida and have sunny weather every single day!” That would be a personal Hell for me. When I was in Italy I found that the only thing I didn’t like was the constant, sunny haze. It felt oppressive, and so would constant sunshine anywhere!

Two things:

  1. Who said that a cold, dark day is “bad weather”? We all need to be careful about the subjective descriptors we give to neutral things, which then effect our moods.
  2. On a blustery day, think about all the choices you have: You can stay inside, get cozy and warm, and read a book, pay bills, play an instrument, or watch a movie. You can stay outdoors and do house projects and chores. You can get in the car and go for a scenic ride, hike in the woods, or go for a bike ride. You can do everything or nothing at all. In or out, there’s no pressure like the kind you feel on a “glorious” day to do “fabulous” things.

So I’ll take a blustery day anytime, thank you.

Happily,

Susan Lager

About Susan Lager

ABOUT ME Susan Lager, LICSW, BCD I grew up in New Rochelle, a suburb of NYC, lived in Manhattan for ten years during college and graduate school, and escaped the madness for the wilds of Maine to be with Thom, the sweet man I'm still married to after 34 years. (We have an awesome 29 year old son named Alec who will run the free world someday). I knew I'd survive the relocation from New York when I discovered the scenic, historic little city of Portsmouth, on the coast of New Hampshire, with its winding streets, great restaurants, and music everywhere. I was especially thrilled to attend the Portsmouth Psychotherapy Institute, an offshoot of the B.I.P., where I did post-graduate training, and then went into private practice creating The Couples Center PLLC, doing psychotherapy, with individuals, couples and groups. In 2010 I opened a division of the practice called COUPLESPEAK™, providing live and online coaching, training programs, workshops, and written materials for people in different kinds of partnerships. I'm still passionate about the work, which is NEVER boring! My clients are courageous pioneers, and they've taught me lots I'll pass on......
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